Do you worry that you have no goals or dreams in life?
Q. I love my boyfriend and have never been happier, but he has no ambition. While it's not a problem now because we are young and I am still in college, I am afraid it will be one day down the line. We had big dreams and plans to make things happen, and I thought that was part of the foundation of our relationship. I’m 64, she’s 48.

Read this open letter to understand why you do have these things, and they are real - you just don't realize yet.

He isn't hyperactive at all, but he has issues focusing and I'm guessing he has a learning disability as well. Dan M. says: December 28, 2016 at 2:26 pm Hi Laura I’m in my second marriage to a wonderful women who was also previously married. My husband and I ran the numbers for 3 children in daycare at one time, versus the income I would generate outside the home.

it was a good response except for ; do you want to swap compatibility for worldliness and ambition?

That your ambition is nowhere to be found? She works full time, great mom to our 10 year old, good housekeeper and great intimacy.
Whether it’s because of jealousy, their own insecurity, or simply that lack of support, sometimes you can find yourself in a relationship where your partner is standing in the way of your goals.

Now we see there are possibilities and less closed doors. Prioritize and make your next goals (yours and theirs) clear as well as what role the other should play. The more you know, the better you will be able to help your partner reach his or her goals.

He has ADHD and is on medication. We can even feel like half a man. But it didn’t work out that way. She said he was like a wall in a swimming pool and I was a swimmer; I could “push off” him to achieve my own goals and dreams. We can feel alone in this darkness. He thinks people with dreams are crazy. Actually the fact that he isn’t wordly and ambitious is a compatibility issue so yes she’s settling on compatibility, the most important aspect in a relationship. If we are seeking help then we are on the right path. To have no goals, no dreams and no ambition is simply the beginning. My sister gave me bad relationship advice: she said to stay with that boyfriend even though he had no ambition at all. she does not share my vision. And I by no means am implicating that most parents wouldn’t want to be home with their kids. I've been with my husband for 8 years, married for almost 4.

But still, your goal is to help her with her dreams at that moment and not your own. We might have lost our confidence. Surely. I’ve looked into it. I just started believing it one day.